Welcome to couples counselling, my name is Lynn Armstrong, I work as a relationship facilitator.
I work with couples who want to create and sustain loving and meaningful connection with their partners. If a couple are experiencing conflict in their relationship, it means something new is struggling to come forward!
With the right relational tools, we can transform conflict into a deep and meaningful connection!
When our relationships are going well, life feels easier, we feel more secure in ourselves and with life in general.The opposite is also true.. when our relationships are a source of stress and conflict, our emotional and physical health are affected. Stress hormones that are circulating in our bloodstream are a contributing factor to many illnesses.
If we want healthy loving relationships, we have to be willing to talk and listen in a different way…
We need a structure that keeps our communication safe for both partners.The safe communication dialogue is a way of talking and listening that allows for both partners to be truly seen and heard by each other.
Safe communication is created when we use this structured way of talking and listening. Here are 3 of the main elements of safe communication.
1.Listening without judgement (mirroring)
2. Validation (being able to validate the other persons point of view without judgement)
3.Empathising ( Getting a sense of what the other person may be feeling, and communicating that)
Safe communication means we have a zero tolerance on negativity, we learn to turn our complaints into requests.
I offer sessions by telephone, video call and in person. Do get in touch if you would like more information or to book a session. Sessions are 60 mins for couples and individuals. Email firstname.lastname@example.org