From Conflict To Connection

Couples usually start out with a very positive beginning, then somewhere down the road conflict starts to creep in.

The myth in our culture is that if your relationship is marked by conflict, then this must be a sign that you are with the wrong person.

This belief about conflict is very prevalent, hence the 50 % divorce rate. From my experience as a coach and safe communication facilitator, conflict is a sign that growth is trying to happen!, and not a sign we should give up on the relationship. The safe communication dialogue is a way of communicating with your partner that creates safety in the relationship.

(If the relationship has become abusive, then of course we should take appropriate steps to keep ourselves safe)

Safe communication dialogue is a structured process that involves 3 main steps.1.Mirroring what our partner says.2. Validating their experience. 3.Empathising with their experience.

When we listen to our partner in this way, it creates safety and trust.

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Lynn Armstrong

Welcome To Couples Counselling And Coaching


Welcome to couples counselling and coaching, my name is Lynn Armstrong, I work as a relationship facilitator, and integrative coach. I am a professional member of the ANLP. (The Association For Neuro Linguistic Programming).

I work with couples and singles who want to create and sustain loving and meaningful connection with their partners and other people. If a couple are experiencing conflict in their relationship, it means something new is struggling to come forward!

With the right relational tools, we can transform conflict into a deep and meaningful connection!

When our relationships are going well, life feels easier, we feel more secure in ourselves and with life in general.The opposite is also true.. when our relationships are a source of stress and conflict, our emotional and physical health are affected. Stress hormones that are circulating in our bloodstream are a contributing factor to many illnesses.

If we want healthy loving relationships, we have to be willing to talk and listen in a different way…

We need a structure that keeps our communication safe for both partners.The safe communication dialogue is a way of talking and listening that allows for both partners to be truly seen and heard by each other.

Safe communication is created when we use this structured way of talking and listening. Here are 3 of the main elements of safe communication.

1.Listening without judgement (mirroring)

2. Validation (being able to validate the other persons point of view without judgement)

3.Empathising ( Getting a sense of what the other person may be feeling, and communicating that)

Safe communication means we have a zero tolerance on negativity, we learn to turn our complaints into requests.

I offer sessions by telephone, video call and in person. Do get in touch if you would like more information or to book a session. Sessions are 60 mins for couples and individuals. Email

Tel 07944921130